Posted in Mental Health, Psychology, Self Help

What is “Self-Concept”?

Self-Concept is the internal evaluation we formulate about our: 

  • Behavioral Skills 
  • Personality (Traits and Attributes)  
  • Temperament 
  • Life Story Past, Present and Future Self-Concept (the internal evaluation and cognitive processing) drives affect or mood. 
  • Sadness or Depression 
  • Fear or Anxiety 
  • Happiness 

Sometimes we refer to our self-concept as that little voice inside my head that critiques or encourages and motivates me as I live my life, interact with others, make decisions, figure out how to deal with the bullshit of life and so on. Self-concept is the outcome of my internal, deepest, most private, thoughts about myself. 

Self-Concept (a.k.a. an internal evaluation and cognitive processing) drives affect or mood AND fuels behavioral responses. 

  • When I am sad or fearful, I isolate
  • I Drink/Drug when I am hurt or afraid
  • When I am happy, because I believe I am good at stuff, I socialize and get out. 
  • I engage in hobbies when I believe that I have good skills and am a good person and I am happy.

At the end of the day, self-concept is among the most important cognitive processes we manage as we live our lives. Self-concept is responsible for a lot of our emotional experiences. Because self-concept is an intrinsic cognitive process it can often be very difficult to identify let alone modify and adapt for the purpose of improving our overall mental wellness. 

To begin the process of understanding our self-concept, the manner in which we evaluate ourselves, the way in which we critique our skill sets, watch this great little video below. As you watch the video, I want you to think about which character you identify with and why. 

Feel free to share which character you selected and why in the comments below. 

Posted in Mental Health, Psychology, Self Help

Anger is Behavioral

Good morning sports fans! Boy what a weekend in the NFL! 

It’s been a minute since I posted, not much in the month of January and so I wanted to get back in the saddle, so to speak, and start talking about how you can improve your overall mental wellness through the development of psychological fitness skills. 

This particular blog focuses mostly on the topics of anxiety, anger and conflict. The goal here is to help you be able to manage your anxiety, avoid anger and conflict, learn how to problem solve effectively through improved communication and coping strategies. For more on this concept here’s a post and video I published last year. It’s called the three amigos. And it focuses on the three most important skill sets we need to develop in order to be mentally well and those include: coping, problem solving, and communicating. 

At the end of the day anger and conflict, which is the dance of anger between two people, is a series of behaviors. Most people assume anger is emotional, it is not! Anger is the sound of hurt and fear leaving our soul. Anger is the expression of hurt and fear. Anger is a behavioral expression of our thoughts. Anger is behavioral. 

If you don’t believe me; keep a tally this week of all the times that you believe you became angry. Jot down exactly what you were doing when you became angry. You will see things like yell, raise your voice, shake your fist at the sky, flip somebody off while you’re driving down the street, kick something, make a fake punching move, I could keep going and going. At the end of the day when you look back at this list, it’s a series of verbs. Yell, raise, shake, flip, kick, and so on. verbs are actions. Verbs are behavior. Therefore, anger is behavioral. The first thing we need to do is understand the anger behavior we use most often and then evaluate if this is effective and healthy. 

I wrote another video and post on healthy and effective. If you’d like more information on that here’s the link

This blog will continue to post videos, audio clips, podcasts and more in an effort to help you increase your psychological fitness skills to help you improve your coping, problem solving, and communication skill sets, to reduce anger and conflict in your life and improve the overall satisfaction you experience when you’re managing your life. 

Talk soon.