Welcome to The Church of Anger! If you’re seeking healing that you have come to the right place. Take a seat and let’s rock.
Anger can be the easiest or most familiar way we attempt to get our needs met, which is why you and I return to anger over and over again. We want our needs met and we want them met, NOW!
Powering up.
Forcing the issue.
Going for what you want no matter the damage caused is part of the American culture and narrative. We learn it early. We use it. We are allowed to continue to use it by people in our world who don’t know how to or fear trying to stop us from bullying our way through life. So we do. Until we destroy our world or we are destroyed by someone bigger, more powerful. Then, it is too late.
Also, sometimes anger, as a behavior, WORKS.
Sometimes when we use anger behaviors, we get what we want, or so we think that we are getting or going to get what we want. Sometimes anger behaviors work – yet at what cost? Marriage? Children? Job? Friends? One must ask one’s self, “What am I willing to pay to get what I want?”
Sometimes it all blows up in our face, thanks to our anger behaviors, and we end up in the back of a squad car, in the ER with injuries and awaiting an assessment for possible hospitalization, divorce court, meeting with child protective services, being escorted to the human resources office and you see your boss holding an empty carboard box and two security guards staring you down or a host of other ineffective and unhealthy outcomes that you, I and no one wants in their life.
The goal here is to lead a life that FOR YOU is healthy, effective, and enjoyable, as well as a whole lot of fun. Gotta have fun.
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